Divorce, Uncoupling and Separation
Arguments, uncertainty, fear, misunderstanding, unheard, sex-less, unromantic, where did our love go...
You have probably only found your way to this page if you feel like change is needed. Consider the following two very different marriage definitions…
- Expansive and worth aspiring to -- Healthy relationships are not based on neediness but on the passion and excitement of sharing the journey towards becoming a whole person. (Gawain)
- Contracted and certain to cause grief -- Marriage is a process in which two individuals renegotiate who they are with respect to each other and the world around them (Berger)
How do you view your significant relationship? Are you Ready for change? or maybe ready to take your relationship to a new level with Life Coaching for Couples?
Coaching offers ultimate support through big life changes. Probably the biggest change that we can make to our lives is to choose to fix our relationship or to divorce, separate or split up from our partner.
Life coaching can be very effective at providing a backdrop of support, certainty, understanding, comfort and strategy while you make such a challenging change. Significant relationship change (choosing to stay-in or out!) is a common reason why clients choose to work with Great Life Coach. Of course there are two sides to the coin, and coaching can help and support people in both sides of a relationship transition.
Happy Relationship or Unhappy Relationship?
Still reading!? Every relationship has rhythms, including a beginning, middle and end! Life Coaching will get you back in touch with your Self, enabling you to authentically decide if your relationship can be turned into one of common purpose, ease and flow, or if it has come to a natural end and it is time to move on.
Many people have lost themSelves in their relationship. The relationship is no longer a supporting environment of mutual-growth.
Self Help -- Try This
What's your Bottom Line?
If you feel like you have been holding yourself in an untenable relationship situation for too long. Have you ever thought about understanding what your limits are? What is your Bottom Line? If your partner crosses that line you must act.
Search your heart and fill in the blanks...
"If my partner did
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then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship."
"If my partner didn't do
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then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship."
"If these things were true about my partner --
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--- then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship."
Share your bottom line with your partner, and at some agreed time ask the question "Has my partner violated my bottom line?".
Does your relationship have a purpose?
What is your common goal? Is your relationship- purpose supporting your own life purpose and personal evolution? Or is it suffocating it?
Coaching will help you decide what action needs to be taken from the centred clarity of yourSelf. We will of course evaluate if the relationship can be saved and then deploy a supported plan accordingly. If you decide that it is time to move on, then with your renewed confidence, coaching can help you put together a plan and then execute that plan with unwavering support. In every case we can design your new life or re-invention and deploy the plan to get you there. Sometimes divorce or separation is explored as a part of a midlife crisis.
There are many relationship books, support services and therapies available to you, and in many cases these may be more appropriate for you than Life Coaching – a choice that only you can know.
Life Coaching focuses on engaging with your Self, designing your future and then moving into action to make it happen. It is not a substitute for couples therapy, therapy or legal services, but can act as a supporting agent for you as you use all these other services. If you feel ready to fix your relationship the following book is highly recommended. If it Hurts it isn't Love, by C. Spezzano.
I also offer life coaching specifically for men or women separately.
If you are looking to change your life situation, if you describe yourself as lost, stuck, AMBIVALENT or caught in a relationship complexity you may find my Happiness Compass of great value. It's a great way to get started!
Divorcing or Separating from your Spouse or Partner
If you feel you have exhausted wisdom-literature, relationships support services, and couples therapies and are ready to make your life change, then life coaching can help you make that change in the following ways.
Today, say YES! to the next step.
Couples Coaching - Making your relationship WOW! - Passion - Great Life Coach London
My utterly confidential life coaching work with people exploring the opportunity of divorce, separation or juicy relationship re-ignition can explore the following areas...
Before the Divorce or Separation
- Loving your self
- Loving your relationship
- Can the relationship be rescued, or do you want out.
- Exploring if sex/intimacy can return
- Get in touch and understand your Self
- Get confident
- Assertion and setting boundaries
- Understand your relationship
- Explore possible options – staying together, therapy, affairs, separation and divorce
- Overcoming ambivalence -- Should I stay or should I go?
- Designing a strategy
- Designing a Conscious Uncoupling
- Do it!
During the Divorce
- Loving your self
- Relaxation and de-stress
- Personal power and centeredness
- Confidence
- Support
- Preparing for reinvention
- After the Divorce – The Opportunity of Your New Life
- Continuing to Love your self
- Start to Live Juicy
- Embracing change
- Reinvention
- Reconnection with the new you
- A new career?
- New friends and lovers
- Support
Being Divorced or Separated from
- Continuing to Love your self
- Get in touch and understand your Self
- Embracing change
- Letting go and understanding
- Relaxation and de-stress
- Personal power and centeredness
- Reinvention
- Reconnection with the new you
- A new career?
- New friends and lovers
- Starting to date again
- Support
If you are interested in exploring if I can help you create a compelling future... Get in Touch
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