Happy Campers...

"Thank you so much for all our sessions which has helped me prise open my mind and see that there's creativity alive in me." Solicitor Administrator, EC1 
 
"This has been a reaffirming process for me which has given me the confidence to make the decisions and changes I need to make to better align my life with my values and aspirations." Estate Agent Partner, Herts.  
 
"When we first met I seemed to have lost the direction in life and didn't know which way to take. I felt useless and dull. Lee showed me how to find out what really matters to ME and we gave my life a new direction. Yes I can!" Mum returning to work, West London  
  
"Thank You! Our last session was so personalised for me, I really appreciate it. I am so inspired to change" Actress, Herts. 

"Working with Lee is an amazing experience for me. The work creates a space to explore myself that I couldn't create with my friends or my family. As an entrepreneur I was often totally stressed out, with the help of Lee's coaching I now deal with the same challenges relaxed and at ease. Further, I got a clearer sense of purpose, my relationships improved and my life has a new depth that made me realise I have only been living at the surface of my potential before. I am thrilled to continue this journey." 26yo, Chelsea  
  
"Thank you for doing what 3 years of analysis and 30 years of how-to books failed to achieve. You truly are a gifted life coach, thank you for doing what you do." Property Investment Millionaire, Hampstead  

"I engaged Lee initially to tackle a specific matter, but quickly our work together moved into many other aspects of my life, surprising me at how much more there can be to what I thought was an already happy life. Lee has challenged me, our sessions have been inspiring and fun, and I have really got a lot out of the life coaching by committing to action between our sessions. Its actually tough when life is already busy, but has been very worthwhile, with lots more to come..." CFO, Marylebone 

"Thanks again. Really enjoyed today's session and value your support and guidance" Writer, SE London 
  
"I first started working with Lee to address a general lack of purpose and direction in my life, particularly focussing on my career and relationship. Our work together has given me a fresh perspective and helped to kick-start some long overdue changes as well as learning a great deal about myself and my ability to achieve the things that I want out of life. This work has been the first step in an already exciting journey of self development." Investment Banker, Clapham 
 
"It's amazing, it's like having a massage from the inside-out." Secondary School Headmaster, Ealing 
  
"Hope I haven't been a difficult client...  As I said I do feel as though I've gained something from our work together, perhaps just not what I was expecting!" Marketing Agency VP, Notting Hill 
   
"Thank you lee for a very thought provoking and illuminating session." Pensioner, Oxford.

"I would like to thank you for our work together as it really has helped me put things into perspective - despite the "blip" in the middle when I thought I was going nowhere.  I feel positive about my "new life".

"It helped me focus on what key issues are really important to me - some which I had not given enough thought to in the past.  This enabled me to consider what changes I could make which would really make a difference to my outlook on life rather than continue to 'plod along' as I had been doing in the past." Accountant, Maidstone

"Lee is passionate to help you to achieve your aims.  His methods are intelligent, challenging, innovative, fun and subtle. If you are prepared to change for the better in any way, be brave and contact him" Accountancy Professional, Kent

"Thanks for getting me through a huge blockage and helping me arrive at a place I had such difficulty getting to." Management Consultant, Reading 

"Thank you for your wisdom and assistance in helping me to find my way..." Banking Executive, City 
 
"You are wonderful!" Lawyer, City of London

"When I first started working with Lee I had completely lost my way in life, I felt as if I had nothing to offer. Lee has shown me what I have to offer the world and once again to start feeling good about who I am. The most powerful thing Lee has given me is the ability to say who I am and what I stand for, a great feeling!" Telco Chief Accountant, Sudbury 

"I have taken the real plunge! I have packed up my business and am at college studying ceramics in a 3 year BA … anyway, it feels great to be doing something I have always yearned to do. I have managed to turn myself around." Graphic Designer, SE London 

"Lee's total commitment to my growth has ensured I have found the answers to my deepest questions. He approaches his work with love, enthusiasm and bucket loads of wisdom" Life Coach, Brighton 

"My coaching experience took me on a three month journey which helped me take control of my life to get out of a self-destructive rut.  I am now living a brighter, more hopeful, more fulfilling life." Global Publisher Group Accountant, Wimbledon 

"I really did need your guidance desperately. I feel a lot better about myself now, a lot more positive about life, even after just a few sessions, so thank you!!" Personal Assistant, Holborn

"Thank you for sharing your wisdom with me. It is bringing unbelievable peace in me.  Smiles forever" 23yo, Fulham 
 
"Fifty something - think you're past it - don’t believe it. My series of fun sessions with Lee, culminated in me getting out my 'comfort zone' and becoming invincible. Prepare to visualize and you will be surprised at how you can make your world happen. Remember “Nothing will work unless you do”. Thanks Lee – recommendations of the highest order”. Business Owner, Banbury 
  
"Really enjoyed the session, I can see we'll be a fertile combination. Good stuff and thanks very much." Derivatives Trader, Cambridge 

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60 Minutes to a New You...

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Introducing...

power and vulnerablityI sat on the sofa zoning out at a silenced TV. I was hating myself.

I felt so useless.

Years of university study, a great career, a new business and friends who look at me as a creative visionary… and downstairs my wife and children utterly dependent on me to provide a home, food and security. Dependent on me also to be the shining light to lead them into a life of love, experiences, and joy…

The slope felt slippery, I was failing. I was a failure. I was a FAILED MAN.

I felt enslaved by my business.

My confidence was draining, and so was my bank account.

All around me “average” men were succeeding, they lacked vision, creativity, and penetrating drive. BUT they were holding the show together. They were creating the happy home that I craved.
Their success only endorsed my sense of man-failure.

I was capable, well educated, but my spark was extinguished.

I had it all, creativity, vision, drive... A warm personable nature. But I felt miserable and dead inside. I DESPERATELY needed the spark to turn this situation around; to become a kindly-King once again and to reclaim my inner throne.

I had never felt so vulnerable.

Many men have variants of these feelings.

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In my work as a Life Coach it is a great privilege to work so deeply with Men. Our dialogues often explore the nuances of a man’s power and his vulnerability. A happy man must be able to embrace both polarities of his power and vulnerability.

Let’s look at the narratives that surround these two ways of being for a man…

Man Vulnerability

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Men need help. Suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of 45. More men kill themselves than are killed by heart disease, traffic accidents and cancer.

In EVERY man is a vulnerability or a fear of failure. There are few places in life where men can open to explore their relationship to that vulnerability. I have worked with thousands of men, it is a privilege to sit with a man and have him tenderly share his vulnerabilities. It always fascinates me that that behind the “weakness” is a powerful desire to serve, provide and protect his loved ones. But many men don't feel like they can talk about their problems and reach out for help and when they do need help where do they go? Can you name a men's resource centre off the top of your head?

Men speak of 'taking it like a man', 'manning up', 'never crying', 'growing balls' and the list goes on. From the moment they are told to play with cars and avoid pink, there is an immense amount of pressure on men to act a certain way in society, to not be vulnerable. Vulnerability is seen as weak, and what happens when men appear weak? Men speak of feeling shitty, losing respect at work and among their family and peers. But where can you go for support when you feel that way?

Women are the victims in society, the ones who need support, help and holding, right? Our culture teaches women to find men who can hold them, help them, support them. So, what happens when their man can't? Well, the statistics say that men are killing themselves at three times the rate women are.

Where are the tools, the resources, the support in our society? Men are being crushed to always provide and never cry. Sadly also, because men have abused their power through countless generations, women find it very hard to hold space for their vulnerable men. Women start to run stories of being unsupported of hanging out with weeny-men. (If you are one of those women I can help you too!) But men, where to go for help?

Man, it is okay to fail, it is okay to talk, to express emotion, to open up, to break the conditioned man-rules. Holding a compassionate space, I can help Men dance with their vulnerabilities and reconnect with their power; and power doesn’t mean ways to overcome women. It means becoming more balanced, sovereign and evolved.

Life is calling us to move into an era of more masculine and feminine balance, where we are all safe to express our truths. By addressing our conditioning, we can heal and become more emotionally balanced, ultimately this will result in less negative expressions of the unbalanced masculine, less men killing themselves.

Man Power

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Is yours a life of moaning about the state of the Planet yet you do nothing to change it?

A man who walks boldly into his life, towards the cliff edge of uncertainty, must do so with total trust and faith. I have learned that both trust and faith can be found in the heart. Sadly, many men don’t dare consider their hearts, they choose to live life from their heads. Fuelled by the baggage of the past, it is our head that originates and exacerbates our fears. I have seen that deep in our heart is a knowingness that we are fundamentally safe and protected by life.

When we go through processes to leave our baggage behind, we can walk into the future brighter and clearer. When we let go of the past we can create a different future, and be open to new and exciting possibilities. Life coaching can help you with that process, it can help you to step into your power. Let us go on a journey together to help you reclaim your inner power.

When we are engaged with our power we are unafraid to speak our truth, regardless of the consequences. We can walk our path, regardless of what others think of us. Our intuition and inner guidance show us the way. Let me show you how to engage with your integrity, your courage, your voice.

How many men do you know who are standing paralysed at the edge of their dreams, desperate to trust life and jump but terrified of what may, or may not happen? It is fear that holds us back from our power.

Over the past 14 years I have seen that there is no easy way to face your fear. Your fears are your shadow side that gives a voice to worthlessness, ensuring that you remain small and pathetic. I have created a process that can help you identify the fears that keep you small. The process allows us to become conscious of all the negative behaviours and beliefs that are holding you back.  It allows you to embrace and acknowledge the ways that you disempower yourself.

Hey man, don’t be held back by the past losses and failures, that keep you stagnating and stuck. Know that your heart can naturally lead you to the right people and situations so that you can fulfil your goals and dreams.

This week try being unapologetic and unashamed of who you are and the path you are walking. Stand tall and celebrate You.

Life wants you to thrive. Trust that.

We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.

Do it.

Do it now.

Your misery, your cold unlit darkness serves no one.

My clients come from all walks of life and all corners of the globe. They are productive and capable people living full-lives. They are in-tune with their growth and are always interested in strategies to be more peaceful. If you are interested in bringing more peace into your life, I can help you. Together we will evolve juicy strategies to have you feel more peaceful, transformed and alive.
 
Do get in touch for a confidential initial consultation to see if I can help you return to inner happiness that is your birthright. Call me on 0845 402 1850 or email or to learn more about life coaching.

 
Go well.

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Many thanks for the image by h.koppdelaney, Flickr CC

One day in April 2016

People often ask me about my work. What do you actually do?! What kind of people do you work with? I realise my work is unusual. Walking into all manner of situations through a typical work day. I always feel privileged in my work, working deeply and honestly with people. The challenges are varied, but in each case I support people to untangle themselves and get authentic. I visit many clients in a week at various locations around the City. I walk between appointments wherever possible. I'm a bit of a rambling man, typically walking around London for 7 - 10 miles a day! Here is summary of a typical coaching work day! I hope you find it interesting.

The Investment Banker, Canary Wharf

My workday started as I hopped the train to Canary Wharf to meet my first client. Sara, a 32yo Asian woman who has been working in an investment bank for the past twelve years. This was to be our fifth session and it was an emotional one. Amidst a flood of tears she confessed that she had now realised that she had been on the wrong path since leaving school. Her parents had nudged her towards banking as a safe option. She vocally hated her job and her health was suffering. Truly, there was nothing “safe” about Sara’s predicament. It was no way to live a life full of potential. It had taken several sessions to get her to admit that she’d been climbing the wrong ladder. The nut was at last cracked and over the next few weeks our coaching focus would shift to bring her onto a more authentic vocational path.
 
My session with Sara took a lot of presence and energy, so I seized the opportunity to do some gentle breath-work to come back to my own center in readiness for my next client. This was to be a telephone client. So I headed west on the Jubilee line to Green Park. I entered the park and found my favourite Lime tree. I laid down and took in the majesty of her giant branches. I connected with the 400 years that she had stood there presiding over the woes of generations of Londoners.

The Divorcing Parisian

My telephone session started, this time with Clo, a wealthy client living in Paris. She had recently come out of a long term relationship. Over previous sessions we had identified the unhealthiness of the relationship and the importance of keeping clear boundaries. I had anticipated that today we would work on her plans for her new life. But No! Coaching sessions are dynamic and anything but predictable. Today’s session became a colossal dumping of all her uncertainties as to whether she had done the right thing. What about money? How could she find a new man? Did she ever really love him? Her liquid feminine nature flowed. I held the space and was eventually able to bring her around to exploring the opportunity of healing using a process that facilitated forgiveness, thankfulness and letting go. I felt her resilience return and she felt ready to move into her week. I left Clo with some powerful meditations to experiment with over the following days.
 
Lunch time! Sushi from Itsu was followed by a meditative nap in the park. My iPhone chimed and it was time to make my way across Hyde park to my next session at a hotel in Kensington.

The Young Entrepreneur

My next client Adam was a young entrepreneur. He was setting up an innovative e-business. Our sessions tended to oscillate between exploring entrepreneurial start-up challenges and the meaning of life. I always love going deep into “what it means to be alive” dialogues, so I was looking forwards to see what he wanted to explore today. After a discussion about cloud formations and the genius and passing of Prince, our session started.
 
A series of life events had unfolded for him over the past few weeks; an investor had pulled out, his girlfriend had quit her job and he was seriously doubting the idea at the core of his business. He had entered a crisis of self belief and he could feel his otherwise potent passion slipping away. We unpacked his feelings from various angles and it became obvious that the principal issue was that he was exhausted. Nothing particularly mystical, we agreed that the first course of action over the next month was to really look after himself! Great nutrition, exercise, more sleep and a regular meditation practice for starters. I also suggested that he explore 5-Rhythms dance as a way of loosening up. I looked forward to see how he was in a few weeks time.

The Finance Director

I jumped a Central Line train back to the city for my final client. He was a Finance Director in a large multi-national. We had worked together for several months to explore whether he should renew his contract or quit the city and go renovate houses in Yorkshire. This was an important session as it was the day before an important board meeting.

I rang the bell at the apartment where he shacks up during the week. I was aware that he’d been hiking in the Alps since we last met, so our opening connections were an exchange of mountain stories. Our session started. He appeared relaxed and at ease. I hadn't seen him that way for months. He disclosed that he was happy with the decision he had arrived at in our prior session. He was going to quit his job. I had witnessed, explored and prodded for months. He was very mind-lead and my guidance was to follow the heart. My only bias was that he should live the next phase of his life authentically. His decision felt universally supported. Excitement soon gave way to an earnest discussion of departure protocols that would best serve his needs without burning bridges. I could feel his gratitude as I left.
 
A brisk walk up to Liverpool Street and I was soon on the train back to the deep countryside for some stillness and gorgeous food. As I arrived home I could smell wood smoke loitering in the air, it was a chilly April evening. I took a moment to enjoy the stars and a full moon. It was soon time to hit the hay, in readiness for another day of life coaching.
 
"Since our meeting of Friday I have been feeling good, there has been a positive release within me. I have been embracing my relationships with friends and family in these past days with such enthusiam. It's startling! I can feel a constant smile on my lips. I'm really feeling the James Brown "Good". Don't laugh at my way of expression, but that is what I'm experiencing. Strangely I feel like I have you sitting on my shoulder whispering repeatedly "What do you value?" You have made me realise that I value a hell of lot, more than what I wrote down on Friday. I THANK YOU for this!!" Executive, Italy.
 
My clients come from all walks of life and all corners of the globe. They are productive and capable people living full-lives. They are in-tune with their growth and are always interested in strategies to be more peaceful. If you are interested in bringing more peace into your life, I can help you. Together we will evolve juicy strategies to have you feel more peaceful, transformed and alive.
 
Do get in touch for a confidential initial consultation to see if I can help you return to inner happiness that is your birthright.
 
PS I have mixed up names and stories to preserve confidentiality.
 
Many thanks for the images by bark, tec_estrmberg, NSanche and Andrey Flickr Creative Commons